"I had known, from the time when I could speak, that my sister, in her capricious and violent coercion, was unjust to me...."
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The injustice of humiliation (through verbal and physical abuse) is what eventually attracts Pip to the allure of being a gentleman. He is "morally timid and very sensitive" because his sister is abusive; he is accustomed to cruelty, so even as a grown boy he's inclined to cower instead of standing up for himself.
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"The change was made in me; the thing was done. Well or ill done, excusably or inexcusably, it was done...."
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Pip's "great expectations" begin with his time at Miss Havisham's. After experiencing the luxuries of upper-class life, he starts to view his own home with contempt. Pip seems to believe that being a gentleman requires wealth and a nice house.
"Many a time of an evening, when I sat alone looking at the fire, I thought, after all, there was no fire like the forge fire and the kitchen fire at home...."
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Pip is finally (he believes) living the life of a gentleman: he has plenty of money and lives comfortably in London. The gentlemanly life is not as satisfying as Pip expected, however; he is homesick and feels guilty about how poorly he treated Joe. He unconsciously begins to question the very definition of a gentleman—a definition he will rework throughout the rest of the novel.
"“Then,” said I, “after all, stopping short here, never taking another penny from him, think what I owe him already!..."
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Pip learns that his mysterious benefactor is not Miss Havisham, as she led him to believe. Instead, it is Abel Magwitch—the terrifying convict Pip helped when he was a small child. Though Pip appears to live the life of a gentleman, his fortune is rooted in criminality. Money and easy living, then, are not the only requirements of leading a gentlemanly life.
"I want forgiveness and direction far too much, to be bitter with you.”..."
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Pip is learning what it means to truly be a gentleman. Rather than being exclusively about wealth and social status, being a gentleman is about kindness and forgiveness. Pip's heart is noble: his kindness towards Abe Magwitch and (perhaps even more so) willingness to forgive Miss Havisham are his markers of gentlemanliness.
"We had a doleful parting, and when I took my place by Magwitch's side, I felt that that was my place henceforth while he lived...."
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Pip's quest to become a gentleman (at least by the standard of wealth and status) has failed. However, he has learned the true meaning of being a gentleman: nobility of heart, which he displays by remaining loyal to Magwitch.